SIDEBAR: Single - and Happy

by Dennis Franck

  • Single adults are lonely. It is true some are lonely, but it does not take being single to be lonely. Some married adults are also lonely.
  • Single adults want to get married. Some do want to marry. Many, however, are happy being single and enjoy their flexibility with time, money, and choices. I would rather they look for a mate in the church than in the world.
  • Single men are irresponsible. Some are; some are not. Some married men are also irresponsible.
  • Single adults are sexually frustrated. Due to death of a spouse or death of a marriage, many are now learning to live a celibate life. Is your church helping these people adjust?
  • Single adults have fewer problems than married adults. Not really. Just different problems. Singleness and marriage both have a set of problems.
  • Single adults are afraid of making a commitment. This statement attempts to explain why many people have not married. It is basically untrue. Single adults postpone marriage for a myriad of reasons.
  • Single adults have more time than married adults. Again, untrue. Single adults have the same household tasks but with no spouse to help.
  • Single adults are a threat to married adults. This is almost always unjustified. It is usually a married adult who feels this and may, as a result, alienate the single adult.
  • Single adults are not complete until they are married. Because of emphasis on marriage and family single adults may feel like a half person. Marriage does not complete anyone. “We are complete in him” (Colossians 2:101).
  • Single adults have more money than married adults. Only a few have good incomes. Young adults are not into their income-producing years yet. Divorced women usually experience a loss of income; single parents struggle. Many widowed adults live on a low, fixed income.



1. Scripture quotations marked NKJV are taken from the New King James Version. Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson, Inc. Used by permission. All rights reserved.