God's Word and Your Son


“Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord” (Ephesians 6:4).

Many biblical principles tie into parenting both genders, but there is an element here particularly suited to fathers in dealing with their sons. It’s far too easy for male competitiveness to erode a father’s good judgment in relating to an emerging man. Dads can be rough and tumble, but they should never be bullies, emotionally or physically.

“The boys grew up, and Esau became a skillful hunter, a man of the open country, while Jacob was content to stay at home among the tents” (Genesis 25:27).

Here’s a great insight in today’s world where society constantly assaults gender roles. Dads can train their sons to take on the biggest outdoor challenges, as well as train them to help around the house, and both aspects of life connect with biblical example.

“Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth. Blessed is the man
whose quiver is full of them” (Psalm 127:4,5).

There is a God-given element of masculinity that is protective. The metaphor in this passage takes full note of the strength of loyal children, with a hint of the value of strong sons. Teach your sons to exemplify sacrificial love and to be ready to lay down their lives for the sake of a mom, a sister, or anyone threatened by evil.

“To Timothy my true son in the faith: Grace, mercy and peace from God the Father and Christ Jesus our Lord” (1 Timothy 1:2).

Here’s the central truth to raising a son: Make it your supreme goal to ensure he becomes your “son in the faith.” If you give him everything in the world, but lose his soul, you have suffered irreparable loss.

“O my son Absalom! My son, my son Absalom! If only I had died instead of you — O Absalom, my son, my son!” (2 Samuel 18:33).

Here’s one of the most heart-wrenching fatherly quotes in all of Scripture. But it speaks to the very soul of what godly fathering is all about. A godly dad will make any sacrifice to rescue a struggling son. For David, Absalom was beyond rescue. For you, this plea on behalf of your son might make all the difference.