SIDEBAR: The Language of Coaching


Language that limits successful conversations pulls the attention toward “me”

  • Self-referencing (me, my, I, etc)
  • Do it my way (or any derivatives of that.)
  • Being focused only on tactical or strategic
  • “Why”
  • Leading the person being coached toward the direction you think is best
  • Assumptions of any kind

Language that assists in coaching conversations keeps the focus on the other person:

  • What are you thinking about?
  • What’s most important?
  • What else?
  • How else?
  • Who else?
  • What will you do first?
  • By when?
  • How will you know?