SIDEBAR: 12 Questions To Explore in Premarital Counseling
Questions To Explore in Premarital Counseling
As spiritual leaders, we must boldly take premarital counseling sessions into areas that may cause some discomfort, but the discomfort of an awkward premarital conversation is much preferred over the discomfort of a future divorce. Here is a list of questions to consider asking in premarital counseling situations:
- Have you discussed your sexual histories with each other?
- If so, what did you learn about each other? Is there anything that concerns you?
- If both are virgins, what kind of issues may present themselves after your wedding day?
- Do you have questions or concerns about healthy sexual expression within marriage?
- Do you have any guilt, fear, or inhibition about fully engaging in a vibrant sexual relationship with one another once married?
- How often do you feel it is healthy for a husband or wife to want to engage in sex?
- How often do you suspect you may desire to be sexually intimate?
- If one of you is a virgin and the other is not, what issues might you need to be aware of entering into marriage?
- Do you believe God has forgiven you fully for your sexual misdeeds? And do you believe God has forgiven your fiancé for the same?
- Do you believe you have the complete forgiveness of your fiancé? How do you know?
- Have you forgiven yourself for any premarital mistakes?
- Are you committed to communicating honestly with your spouse regarding any and all sexual issues that arise in the future, recognizing that genuine sexual intimacy requires deep levels of trust and open communication?